We are all ignorant when we lack information. I thought gender was the sex when I was born. However, gender is not sex. Gender is a human innate sense of who you are on the scales of masculinity and femininity. Those scales generally describe how society describes masculine and feminine behavior, doing certain things, wearing certain things, and living and experiencing life in a certain way. In some cultures, something might be considered masculine; in others, it might be considered feminine.Where you belong really matters because that’s how society will expect you to grow.
When you say that you were born in the wrong body because gender is a spectrum, for example, the spectrum is from pink to black, Black is like the macho and masculine, and pink is like the feminine and Barbie type. I am probably in the middle; I have my femininity, and more so, in the last 10 years, I’ve been able to tap into my feminine essence more at my core. Circumstances had shaped me to be more masculine. If I was asked my color 10 years ago, probably I am more of a blue. Now, I’m a pinkish purple, on the feminine side of me, but when someone comes after my child, I go masculine. My husband’s not a black person. He’s more of a greenish brown; he’s very masculine, but he’s got a vulnerable side too. What was beautiful was realizing that there’s such a spectrum; it’s not black and white; it’s not feminine and masculine.
There’s a ratio to it, like a seesaw. Wherever the seesaw tilts, you kind of identify with that side. Some people may not be able to identify tilting toward a particular side. If they’re smack in the middle, they say they were “androgynous” or “non-binary” . It is where we don’t subscribe to either gender. It’s not either or; it’s not a box of M or F. It is more of a spectrum, and we need to understand that. We need to let people experience life the way they’re supposed to. What we’ve done in the past is compose things. It’s like girls should be like this, or a boy needs to do that.
Body part does not dictate your gender identity; however, that is a part of your biological sex, something you were born with. For some reason, it’s been taken out. Losing a body part did not change the gender identity. Thus, sex might be between the legs, but gender is between your ears.
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