Hey you—yes, the one who just reheated your coffee for the third time, negotiated snack treaties like a diplomat, and Googled “is it normal for toddlers to…” again today. When was the last time you felt truly supported?
If your answer is “uhh… what’s that?”—you’re not alone.
In 2025, we’re finally saying it out loud: parenting is not meant to be a solo act. And no, it’s not about curating Instagrammable playdates or having alphabetized snack drawers. It’s about something much more real: your Mum Posse.
So, what’s a Mum Posse?
It’s your support crew. Your lifeline. The group chat that sees you at your best, your messiest, and everything in between. It’s the friend who sends a meme when you’re melting down, the one who’ll drop off soup when your whole house is sick, and the one who just gets it without explanation.
It’s not about quantity—it’s about connection.
Why it matters (like, a lot)
As a parent-child coach, I see it all the time: the difference it makes when a parent has a village. Not just for them, but for their kids, too.
When you surround yourself with people who are emotionally available, encouraging, and non-judgmental, you’re modeling healthy relationships and emotional regulation for your children. It’s like an emotional safety net—for both of you.
And yes, science backs this up. Studies show that social connection is a key component of mental health and well-being. And let’s be honest: a vent session with a trusted friend can sometimes feel more powerful than an entire self-help book.
Real connection, not perfection
Forget “supermom” standards. The magic happens in the in-between moments:
- Texting someone, “Is it just me, or is bedtime basically a hostage negotiation?”
- Swapping half-eaten banana bread recipes.
- Celebrating the sheer triumph of surviving the grocery store with a toddler in tow (honestly, give yourself a medal).
How to find your Mum Posse (or grow one)
If your village doesn’t exist yet—don’t panic. It’s not too late. Start with just one connection:
- Host a casual coffee morning—no Pinterest-level prep needed.
- Do a “walk & talk” after school drop-off with another parent.
- Join a local parenting group or even a virtual forum if you’re short on time or childcare.
- Share this post with a fellow mum and say, “Hey, wanna chat about this?”
Connection is the new self-care
Self-care doesn’t always look like spa days and yoga flows. Sometimes, it’s choosing community over isolation. Sometimes, it’s just allowing yourself to be seen—mess and all.
You deserve connection. You deserve support. And trust me, your future self (and your kids) will thank you for building your Mum
Before You Go
Think of one parent you admire or appreciate—and send them this post with a note saying “I’m glad we’re in this together.”
That one message could be the start of something deeper.