How do we kill the stigma of what people think transgender people are? Let’s start with awareness. We should understand that when a human baby is born, that baby can be born in three ways. One can have a male body child, a female body child, or an intersex body child. The term “intersex” wasn’t used frequently. In the 1970s, …
Helping Children take Opportunities
A lot of the kids that I do have the privilege of coaching don’t know their purpose. And that’s why parents contacted me. It’s like, “Can you coach my kid? What’s their purpose? What’s their passion right now?” Kids need to know what opportunities lie ahead of them. And so, as parents, the more we know, the better we can …
Fueling Passion
We needed to strengthen our muscles by showing that we were interested in things that we were terribly disinterested in. As parents, we need to come up with different strategies, like what students couldn’t benefit from discovering that there’s alternative techniques and they can choose the ones that work best for them and apply them. To give you an example, …
Meditation on Parents
Meditation with parents is a more in-depth process because we’ve had such a longer history. So I do have a big family history with my parents. If I do have a parent who is having a lot of anxiety or depression, I might really get to the root of it, and then I might refer them to work with someone …
From Expectation to Appreciation
Exchanging expectations or trading them in for appreciation. I never understood what it meant until I started to realize all the times that I was angry, all the times that I was frustrated, and all the times that I felt like I didn’t have control over things. And I realized that there were so many expectations that I had from …
Taking Actions
There were sparks here and there, especially working in the school system. We tell our children, “Dream big!” and “Do it for yourself.” We say these things, but knowing is not enough. Knowledge is nothing without the action behind it, without the embodiment of it. I always say to be curious, not critical. And I think that when we change …
A Strategy to Stop Bickering
There’ll be times people say, “Oh, I bet you your family is so great and so peaceful,” and I’m like, “Mine? Not so much, not so much.” But again, it’s what I practice now. So I have six kids, but the twins are eleven. All the kids are out of the house, but the twins are here, and they’re constantly …
Showing up on Yourself
What are the things that we, as parents, are hiding from? The overwork, the judgment, and so many other things. We were all of it. We overdrink, overeat, overdo it, overplease, and overcompensate for all of the stuff that we didn’t want to talk about. All of the trauma, all of the darkness, all of the things that, if we …
Pushing vs. Guiding
As parents, we have to have a good awareness of what factors are playing into our kids. Like, what pressure is there at school? What critical elements are also happening at school? Are those things showing up in the home at all? So as a parent, we have to be really cautious about what you’re pushing your child towards and …
Bench to Brilliance
If you’re points ahead, what a great time to give those kids that have been sitting on the bench the opportunity. Get them in there because you’re so far ahead that you know you get to win. Give them a chance to be a part of that win. Now, you not only told your other players that they wanted to …