When I had kids, all I could think about is not screwing them up. I defined screwing them up as them not feeling loved, not knowing how to love, not knowing how to feel good about themselves, making them feel they are not enough, or making them feel sad or unwanted. My definition came from how I felt as a …
30 hours into a 13 hour coaching contract and it is all worth it to see the transformation that occurred today. A family who has struggled for years with communication, feeling unheard, unseen, criticized, untrusted, betrayed, put down, and a fight with cancer, now sees the cause and can now repair and rebuild the relationship they had 14 years ago. …
When we look at the world, and we see the pain, we have three choices: Add to it; Ignore it, or Solve it. What I have learned through the years of being in the midst of those hurting, watching those hurt, watching those that harm, watching those that ignore and watching those that do what they think is healing; we …
For years we have taught our kids when they hurt someone to say sorry. When they do something wrong to say sorry. If they accidentally do something, say sorry. When they make a mistake, say sorry. Are we teaching them the value of this word? Or have we just given them a word to use to “get off the hook?” …
Anxiety is a feeling that occurs when there is uncertainty about a situation, environment, activity. Most people think that anxiety is about panic attacks. Panic attacks actually are just a symptom of anxiety. It is the way the body reacts to the anxiety it is feeling. Think of it as the body protecting itself. So if your child isn’t experiencing …
I remember the day I first cut. It was like a wave of emotions just flowing out of my body. I could breathe again. I didn’t feel the heaviness on my chest. The literal pain in my heart was gone. Gone for that brief moment. It was the 1st time, I felt in control of what I was feeling. I …
If we go back to when our child is 1st born, how do you know if they are hungry, uncomfortable, hurting, sleepy, etc.? They cry. Crying is the 1st way a child learns to communicate with others. Crying is the way the child learns how to build a relationship with their parent and caretakers. Crying helps a child build trust. …
Milk is often touted as being essential for strong bones and overall health, but what does the science say about dairy products and their impact on kids? Did you know? I grew up drinking cow’s milk. I was born in America and raised on store-bought pasteurized whole milk. I didn’t know that it wasn’t good for you. I grew up …
Everyone has their own approach. As parents we want to know we are “doing it right.” A better question to ask, “what is right?” What is the outcome that we want to see as parents? For me a parent of 4, I want to know that I am giving the best guidance I can to enable my children to be …
The Movie That Has Sparked A Lot Of Controversy Is Actually Much Needed I am very sad to hear of the passing of teenagers. I hear about teen suicide almost on a daily basis. There are many reasons why someone wants to take their life. I’ve seen as recently as of today how many want to blame the movie “13 …